How to Be Considerate of Your Partner

I think that what he means here is not that we should never ask our partner about their vulnerabilities or the ways we can really inspire them. He doesn't want us just lazily going to our partner being like, well, tell me what's really vulnerable for you. And so he's just encouraging people to really put themselves in their partner's shoes and think about who they are. To have a secure functioning relationship, you must be considerate of your partner at all times.