The Importance of Believing in Yourself

I'm afraid I'll get obsessed too quickly is a way of abdicating responsibility as if to say the power is outside of me. You want to put it as it's a race to the bottom, which I thought was a very euphemistic phrase. So obsession shouldn't be the goal. But in the first couple of weeks, there should really be nothing someone could do that would make you make your mind up about how great they'll be as a partner in five years. That's cool. If they're on board for that, amazing. But I'm not going to now suddenly change my whole frame of what's important to me and what determines my happiness based on whether this person