The Belt Is Me

"I'd literally move that belt from peg to peg for 40 years without thinking about it," she says. "That gave me a very interesting perspective on how I had, in some ways, quite physically and overtly carried him around ... but subconsciously never recognized it or never acknowledged it." After her death, all of the children were told what their first round pick was going to be; they each picked an object associated with their mother. She wanted them to tell stories about those things as well: Why did I want that? What was your first choice? Oh, my mother's crucifix. And we all got our first round picks.