The jewish community has developed a map for the pain of grief that is beautiful and profound. And i just think hy are very good maps. I'm gay, amagin plenty i don't agree with. But but what we've done is we've been writing these new maps. We've been telling people they are simply scientific facts. They are not that. These are highly contingent social constracts,. although there is plenty of scientific evidence for various aspects of thi a. A woman said: in our society we just do not understand human distress. The way i came to think of it is, in a way, i think the coe part ofwhat i learned writing lost connections