How to Talk to Queer Lady Friends About Disordered Eating

I try to just be like nice to people and not sort of do the well actually thing on an individual basis. I might have a very light touch conversation with them about like, so how does this square with your disorder eating stuff? Like, does this not feel like a trigger for that? And if we had that kind of relationship, this is like an incredibly delicate conversation that like they need to be in the driver's seat. If you're somebody's medical doctor or close friend, it's not like in your wheelhouse to gather the kind of information that you would need about the person to do a kind of intervention like this. It comes from you having information about them, right?