How Do We Find Connection Without Neediness and Validation?

Ase, katelan says after we regulate ourselves and are more whole, how do we find that connection without neediness and validation seeking? Still trying to understand this concept. i remember myself being like, what else is there if you don't need the person? Like, why are you wi? It's such a cheap view of love, right? Butt, it's a very human one. You listen to pop music, it's all about, i need you, baby, i needYou. That's why i love you so much. Well, need is not love. O, so just make sure youare not your responsibility, your privacy is your responsibility here. So just