Questioning 'Is He The One?' and Choosing Your Soulmate

Marriage is magical… but also occasionally maddening. In this episode, we welcome licensed marriage and family therapist Aly Bullock, to spill her wisdom on making love last long after the honeymoon.

💥 [00:02:10] We kick it off with the most-asked question about long-term relationships—and a fresh perspective you probably haven’t heard before.

💃 [00:04:50] “Non-toxic drama”? Yes, it’s a thing—and you might just be obsessed with the concept.

👀 [00:10:45] How something as simple as eye contact might be the most underrated intimacy move.

📱 [00:12:00] The couples app that’s transforming everyday connection—one tiny prompt at a time.

🥴 [00:17:15] Is it possible to be happy, healthy, and passionate in the long run? Let’s just say this part might challenge your assumptions.

💔 [00:24:15] What to do when you’re years in and still unsure if your partner is “the one.”

😬 [00:27:15] The art of addressing a partner’s weight gain—with honesty and compassion.

💅 [00:33:00] What to say when your partner’s new look has you questioning everything—including their haircut choices.

💵 [00:36:10] Money dynamics in relationships: how to handle shifts in income and power without blowing things up.

👶 [00:41:50] Kids change everything—here’s how to stay close when chaos enters the chat.

🔐 [00:48:50] Trust issues and betrayal: what healing really looks like, and how to know when it’s time to walk away.

👪 [00:55:10] In-law boundaries, decoded. (Yes, you can set them without sparking family feuds.)

Find Aly on social media at the handles @pairedapp and @relationshipswithaly where she shares relatable, actionable couples content and check out the show notes for 25% off a year membership to Paired premium to get her expert advice tailored specifically to you and your partner. http://www.paired.com/alypodcast

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