There's a book by meg jay called the defining decade about how you can thrive in your twenties. And i would highly recommend that, because a lot of those principles apply beyond your 20 and theyre really the foundation for getting what you want out of life. Just one more note on this idea of being radically honest with your partner. When cal and i first started talking about this, there was a point in time where it seemed like maybe he wanted to go a path that was less certain, less consistent income. He asked me like, would you feel comfortable contributing more? And at that time, i wasn't there. Mentally. Now i am, but i wasn't quite there