The Dalai Lama says when you talk you can only say what you already know but when you listen you have a chance to get something new and grow and change so don't say you understand that person because you don't there's no way you could right I also the definition of empathy is trying to feel how they might feel. tell them about God that's the Dalai Lama he says when you talks you can only saying what you already known but when youListen you have a Chance to Get Something New and Grow And Change. Women are so much better at it than men, especially women grown women with one another. We're all supposed to be doing that men are just sort of like give them nothing