Is There a Shared Value?

i always find myself saying, underneath those differences, can you identify any shared value? Because i bet you can. And one of the reasonstimes is the thing people say, you don't uderstand like t people of my family, we don't have any share of values. That's like, if you care about each other, that's, that's the starting point. I think like families, oftentimes it can be a real struggle to identify what are ther shared vaues, and what are those moral proscriptions?