Anal sex (and how to make it pleasurable) is one of those topics that people usually have to figure out all on their own. So think of today’s episode as the all-you-need-to-know guide to good anal sex. Some of the topics we’ll explore include what you need to know about anal douching, how to choose the right lube, tips for preparing and relaxing so that you can experience pleasure instead of pain, and more.

I am joined once again by Dr. Evan Goldstein, who is the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a leading private practice specializing in an elite standard of sexual health and wellness care for the gay community. He is also co-founder of the sexual wellness brand Future Method and author of the new book Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between.

Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

How can paying attention to diet and nutrition help pave the way for more pleasurable anal sex?
What do people need to know about anal douching in order to optimize health and pleasure?
Why is dilating an important part of preparation before anal sex?
What are the best kinds of lube for anal sex?
What are some good beginner tips and techniques for penetration?

You can visit Evan’s website to learn more about him and his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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