How Do I Stop Feeling Guilty When My Male Partner Doesn't Come?

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I would just sue from the question. How do you stop feeling guilty? So I think understanding to begin with that some of this stuff and this guilt isn't from, doesn't come from you. And external factors can be helpful just in and of itself. That's not necessarily going to break it all, like, you know, break it down completely but just understanding that and maybe kind of doing some reading around sexual scripts and stuff can be really useful. Education around these things can challenge so many feelings of guilt and stigma and shame that comes with sex for loads and loads of people.

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Becky Lund-Harket, who is the Head of Public Engagement and a workshop facilitator at the School of Sexuality Education as well as the founder of the Candid Collective. Becky discusses why people feel dissatisfaction in sexual and romantic relationships (spoiler: it's because of poor communication!) and gets into why we find communication so difficult, as well as talking about some good and bad examples from TV. Becky and Hannah talk about the orgasm gap, how sex ed can help to close that gap, and why orgasms shouldn't be the main focus of pleasure. Finally, Hannah and Becky discuss the double standards involved with nudes and sexting.

✨MORE ABOUT BECKY LUND-HARKET✨
Becky Lund-Harket (she/her) is the Head of Public Engagement and a Workshop Facilitator at School of Sexuality Education. School of Sexuality Education deliver workshops for young people on topics ranging from porn, consent and healthy relationships to periods and genital anatomy. Their approach is intersectional, feminist, non-binary and sex positive. They support young people and those working with them to ensure everyone has access to a complete, inclusive and comprehensive sex and relationships education.

Becky is also the Founder of The Candid Collective. Candid host fun and informative workshops for adults across London and online. Their discursive and research-led events focus on sex, bodies and relationships with the aim of starting open conversations.

Becky strongly believes that the quality of the relationships we have, including with ourselves, determine the quality of our lives.

- School of Sexuality Education: https://schoolofsexed.org/
- The Candid Collective Website: https://www.thecandidcollective.com/

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