Are You Setting Yourself Up for Disaster?

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When you go into expectations, you're setting yourself up for disaster. Your kids might not be ready for you, even though you're ready for them. So that's almost another example of an idea i've heard of which is kind of basing your reality on your actions as opposed to the result of those actions. Yet it's interesting, there a natha process in outcome is a perfect analogue. Because because the outcome is, was i present? Was i ampathetic? And then was I bringing the play and the love? And so i'm not. It's not even in the seitgeist in terms of the outcome of my interaction with the kid.

Todd Kashdan is a two-time Smart People Podcast guest. As a Professor of Psychology and a leading educator to the public, Todd translates state-of-the-art science for practical application to improve our everyday lives. He is well-known for his energetic and disarming communication style.

Awarded the 2013 Distinguished Early Career Researcher Award by the American Psychological Association, Todd Kashdan is among the world’s top experts on the psychology of well-being, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships. His research has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including multiple articles in the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, and Forbes.

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