Is Your Identity Determined Exclusively by Women?

A lot of guys attach their identity to what they're doing, which means that you think, if this girl likes me and thinks I'm funny, then that means I'm a good person. And if she doesn't like me and doesn't think I'm Funny, then that mean I'm not a good person right? So when you attach your sense of self exclusively to what other people are thinking of you, especially women, then you're going to go on a roller coaster with your emotions. That's why that guy feels like he has balls of gold when girls are into him. And he's smuggling raisins when girls aren't into him because his identity is determined by external feedback