There’s a lot of debate these days about what it means to be a man. But maybe the answer is simpler than we think, and a lot of masculinity just comes down to confident competence. A broad set of know-how. The ability to get stuff done. The capacity to move through the world with purpose and skill.

As someone who's lived several lives in one, Elliot Ackerman certainly embodies that ethos. He's a decorated Marine, a former CIA paramilitary officer, a National Book Award-nominated novelist, and now the writer of A Man Should Know, a column at The Free Press that explores the small but significant skills that shape a man’s life.

Today on the show, Elliot and I talk about why young men are struggling, how intention, discipline, and competence can change the way a man carries himself, and a few of the specific skills a man should know — from how to wear a watch to how to give a eulogy.

Resources Related to the Podcast

Elliot's novels
Elliot's "A Man Should Know:" columns:
How to Introduce Yourself
How to Be a Friend
How to Own a Watch
Fields of Fire by James Webb
The Things They Carried by Tim O'Brien
The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger
AoM Article: 100 Skills Every Man Should Know
AoM Skills Archives
AoM Podcast #307: Make Your Bed, Change the World
AoM Article: 10 Ways to Be a Better Husband Today
AoM Article: How to Choose a Watch
AoM Article: How to Give a Eulogy
AoM Article: A Eulogy for My Grandfather, William D. Hurst
The Poetics of Manhood: Contest and Identity in a Cretan Mountain Village by Michael Herzfeld
AoM Article: MacGyver Manhood and the Art of Masculine Improvisation
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