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#529: Iconic Therapist Dr. Sue Johnson — How to Improve Sex and Crack the Code of Love

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What Is a Hold Me Tight Conversation?

A hold me tight conversation is a bonding conversation. The tricky part is that, as adults, some of us have never seen this conversation. We are acutely sensitive to signs of rejection or abandonment by the people we love. Could you give any examples of phrasing or questions? Yo, guide lines you provide? Thabes, i know i would love to know, and i suspect others would to.

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Dr. Sue Johnson (@Dr_SueJohnson) is a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue has received numerous awards in recognition of her development of EFT, including the American Psychological Association’s “Family Psychologist of the Year” and the Order of Canada.

Her best-selling book Hold Me Tight—with more than one million copies sold—has taught countless couples how to enhance and repair their love relationships. The book has since been developed into a relationship enhancement program called Hold Me Tight Online. Her most recent book for clinicians, Attachment Theory in Practice, delineates the promise of attachment science for understanding and repairing relationships.

As the founding director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), Sue trains counselors in EFT worldwide and provides guidance to 80 affiliated centers. She consults for the US and Canadian militaries and is a popular presenter and speaker for the general public.

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