Are You Dating Anxious People?

Anxious and avoidant people date each other because they both fit into each other's stories of what they fear is the worst that could happen to them. An anxious person forms a story around, I have to work so hard for loveBecause the other person is always going to be trying to draw away. And avoid a person as a story. But if they date a secure person, they don't have to try. Then it feels weird because they've learned to associate love with trying really hard. And to earn it. You don't deserve it.