How do you say no to your friends without hurting their feelings? What's a good way to do this without being super abrupt and being perceived as incentive i don't care about their feelings that's not my problem. The people you will stay in contact with will be gracious with your progress these are the people who will set who will understand they will understand that it's not personal that you're just doing your thing, he says. "They have no comprehension of what you're trying to do or what your dreams are what your goals are"