The Purpose of the 'Ick'

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This chapter explores the concept of the 'ick' in relationships and discusses its purpose as a self-defensive mechanism, a means of self-preservation, and a justification for ending things or avoiding rejection. It delves into the idea of post-rationalization and how our brain makes associations between negative experiences and certain stimuli, leading to feelings of disgust or aversion. Additionally, it highlights the power of intuition and how the 'ick' may be rooted in our gut instinct and past experiences.

You're dating someone new and suddenly, they show up to a date wearing crocs, or wear goggles to the beach and you get the ick. You immediately lose all attraction to them, you feel the immediate need to end the relationship, why is that? In this episode we break down some of the surprising psychology behind the ick, including the links to our intuition, emotional unavailability, rejection sensitivity and more, but also why the ick isn't always a death sentence. We also discuss why we voluntarily give ourselves the ick towards the people we're interested in and how we can use it to detach from people who may not be good for us. All of that and more! Listen now.

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