How to Deal With Disturbing Gross Distressing Intrusive Thoughts During Sex

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Some people think semen is gross and so then they might just have that gross thought in their mind. Other times it could be that it's something to do with thinking that they think it's gross but actually it might be a turn on. Sometimes our brain takes us to the worst possible scenario that you can think of yourself. Those sorts are usually something toDo with what we call extreme fear or a cute fear because they sometimes come into sexual area.

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Silva Neves, who is a psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist and author, to dispel all the myths around sex addiction and give us a better framework to view sexual behaviour through. Silva talks about the difference between the public idea of sex addiction and the understanding of it in a sex therapy clinic, and gives us a rundown on the definition of addiction and so how sex and porn addictions don't fit into it. Hannah and Silva then discuss compulsive sexual behaviours, which is what someone who might think they are a porn addict could be experiencing, and the causes of these behaviours and the potential distress they can cause.

CW: Discussion of sexual trauma. Main discussion begins at 40:11. Please skip this episode if you need to and look after yourself!

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✨MORE ABOUT SILVA NEVES✨
Silva Neves is a COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual and relationship
psychotherapist, and a trauma psychotherapist. He is a Pink Therapy Clinical Associate. He
sees individuals and couples presenting with a wide range of sex and relationship issues.
Silva specialises in working with sexual trauma and compulsive sexual behaviours.
Silva is a Course Director for CICS (Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology) and speaks
internationally. Silva is the author of Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians (2021, Routledge).

Website: https://www.silvaneves.co.uk/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/SilvaNeves3
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silvanevespsychotherapy/

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