What Are the Steps of Silencing and Active Sort of Attachment System?

People oftentimes think about, ok, it's been activated, now i need to look after myself. But that's not exactly how we think from an attachment pospet. Thetachment doesn't care about the explicit details of things. Cares about the implicit details. We can secure other people and even ourselves by 'secure priming' It's a very powerful thing - but you have to do it all at once.