Wigan Warriors rugby league star and former Leeds Rhinos captain Kruise Leeming joins me for an honest, powerful conversation about leadership, loss, identity, and emotional growth.
At just eight years old, Kruise lost his dad and was immediately told he was now “the man of the house.” That moment shaped everything: his drive, his discipline, and his approach to sport and leadership. But as he opens up here, it also left scars.
We explore:
- The pressure of early responsibility
- The cost of performance-first leadership
- Owning past mistakes and letting go of guilt
- Reconnecting with faith, vulnerability and inner peace
- Becoming a better man — for himself and the people around him
Kruise speaks openly about the things he got wrong, the people he wishes he’d said sorry to, and how he’s learning to show up differently on and off the pitch.
This episode goes beyond sport. It’s about identity, masculinity, grief, and the courage it takes to slow down and change.
Show Notes
Kruise’s Journey into Manhood
- Losing his father at age 8
- Taking on responsibility too young
- Being told: “You’re the man of the house now”
- His mum’s role in keeping him disciplined
Sport as an Escape and a Mirror
- Finding rugby by chance
- Why individual sports weren’t enough
- Realising rugby gave him belonging and identity
- Feeling seen for the first time
The Drive to Succeed and What It Cost
- His obsession with performance
- Leadership at Leeds and the emotional disconnect
- How “winning” became a way to avoid feeling
- The relationships and moments he regrets missing
The Turning Point
- Grace (his partner) giving him permission to be vulnerable
- Starting to question: “Why does that trigger me?”
- Stepping into real masculinity, not performative strength
Faith, Reflection and Slowing Down
- Losing belief in God – and slowly finding it again
- How faith helps him see beauty in difference
- Letting go of judgement and control
Mentors, Father Figures and Role Models
- The influence of his grandad and Gaz Greenwood
- Learning discipline, respect, and how to carry yourself
- The power of being held to a high standard
Leadership, Identity and the Work Ahead
- Learning to lead without anger
- Understanding himself through CliftonStrengths
- Starting to feel free to be himself again at Wigan
- Looking ahead to life after rugby: speaking, coaching, and helping others
