There's a very fine line. You have an illness. Do you deserve compassion? Absolutely. Do you sometimes get a free pass from time to time? Absolutely. But do you get to blame everything on being by poler? No. So any time there's kind of a victim complex, we have to be kind of careful. If the victim is sort of saying, i'm wrong, and it's er, i've been wronged, and it’s not my fault, what it also means is that they're giving up their agency,. They're giving up control.