Ep 39 - What It's Like to Hire a Pro Dom: Pleasure, Boundaries & Power Play with Sir Marvelous
The Kink Consultant
Reframing Dominance as Leadership
Amanda asks about teaching couples dominance; Sir Marvelous prefers 'leader' or 'pleaser' language and explains sensual dominance.
What happens when a professional dom and pleasure coach sits down to unpack the psychology of kink, power, and pleasure?
In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the brilliant Sir Marvelous, a pro dom, educator, and content creator who's on a mission to make BDSM more accessible, intentional, and deeply satisfying. From his early journey with sex toys to his current work guiding individuals and couples through personalized kinky experiences, this conversation is full of both fire and insight.
We talk about everything from the difference between dominance and leadership, to the importance of safe, ongoing negotiation in kink sessions. Sir Marvelous shares his thoughts on why BDSM isn’t just about play. It’s about learning, evolving, and closing the pleasure gap through communication. We dive into topics like edging, mind play, denial, why submission doesn’t mean weakness, and how even a simple sex toy changed the trajectory of his life (shoutout to that random man outside the NYC sex shop!). He also opens up about his teaching philosophy, the role of ego in intimacy, and the importance of making space for joy, curiosity, and mutual exploration.
If you’ve ever been curious about what it’s like to hire a pro dom, how to introduce kink to your relationship, or why pleasure is something worth investing in, this episode is packed with truth bombs and transformative takeaways. Tune in and discover how BDSM can be a path to connection—not just in the bedroom, but in life.
Episode Highlights:
01:27 Understanding Pro Dom and Pleasure Coach
10:17 The Importance of Continuous Learning in Kink
17:20 Empowering Women Through Sexual Liberation
19:39 Shifting Preferences in Adult Content
25:32 Discovering Kink
31:06 The Importance of Communication in BDSM
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