The source of the insecurity cannot be fixed directly by putting together other stuff. So you may need to look into the source of that insecurity. Do you have a sense of where that comes from? I've been using the healthy game re guide a to kind of analyze myself, and i've done a little bit of therapy as well in the past. A lot of these things come from childhood. Being the best kid to get attention reinforces the idea that fundamentally, you don't deserve attention.