I've Been Through a Loss and I'm Not Sure Why I Feel Bad

i. M people expressing to me that they feel bad complaining about insert whatever problem here, when you've gone through such a loss. And i totally get the instinct. But i don't see anything wrong with talking about something else rightright? I'm not sure why it's so ingrained in us to dismiss our own problems,. am to our own like stresses and anxieties. There's also this whole secrecy versus attention seeking. A major part of this is being ignored a bit.