Pastoral Reality and Real Victims

Have you been crushed by the pressure to "just forgive" an unrepentant abuser?

Many of us have been taught that forgiveness must be unconditional and unilateral to be "Christian", but what if that teaching isn't actually in the Bible?

In this deep dive, I’m joined by Pastor Chris Brauns (author of Unpacking Forgiveness) and Pastor Matt Ferguson to expose the heavy burden of "Therapeutic Forgiveness." We explore why the popular idea that forgiveness is "just for you" is a modern invention, not a biblical command.

If you are tired of the mental gymnastics of trying to forgive someone who isn't sorry, this conversation will bring you clarity, validation, and true rest in Christ.

In this episode, we cover:

Why "Unconditional Forgiveness" is a myth that hurts victims.

The difference between "Therapeutic Forgiveness" (feeling better) vs. "Biblical Forgiveness" (restoration).

Did Jesus forgive everyone on the cross? (The answer might surprise you).

Why demanding repentance is actually the most loving thing you can do.

How to find peace and let go of bitterness without faking forgiveness.

Resources Mentioned:

Unpacking Forgiveness by Chris Brauns: https://a.co/d/9BHwcnC

The Way of Repentance (Chris’s upcoming book): https://a.co/d/cW6MymM

CHAPTERS:

0:00 - The crushing burden of "Just Forgive"

06:25 - Why we started studying forgiveness

14:40 - The 2 Definitions: Therapeutic vs. Biblical

29:22 - Did Jesus forgive unconditionally on the cross?

36:43 - The danger of telling abuse victims to "get over it"

45:00 - How Paul handled Alexander the Coppersmith

54:19 - A clear definition of Biblical Forgiveness

1:02:53 - Why withholding forgiveness can be an act of love

1:13:01 - Practical advice for the hurting heart

Connect with the Guests:

Chris Brauns: https://chrisbrauns.com/

Matt Ferguson: https://www.huntersridgecommunitychurch.org/team

About True Comfort: It is our desire to live out 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, assuring us that we have a God who comforts us in all our afflictions so that we may share that comfort with others. We explore the reasons for the Biblical worldview while holding space for heartbreak and healing.

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