You’re touched out. Your brain is fried. And sex feels like one more thing on the list. In this episode, Kristin and Deena sit down with sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander Marin to talk honestly about what really happens to intimacy after kids, and why so many loving couples feel disconnected during this stage.

This conversation goes beyond surface-level advice and digs into the real blockers to desire: exhaustion, resentment, mental load, body changes, and the pressure to “get back to normal.”

You’ll learn:

• Why “low desire” is often a pleasure, energy, and safety problem, not a you problem

• How mental load and invisible labor quietly shut down intimacy

• What your partner is really asking for when they initiate sex (even when it comes out clumsy or annoying)

• Why going back to the honeymoon phase isn’t possible - and what’s available instead

• Simple, realistic ways to reconnect when you’re already depleted

If you’ve been missing closeness but don’t know how to get back there, or don’t even know where to start... Nothing is broken. You’re not failing. You’re just in a season no one talks about. And this episodes gives you real tools, real relief, and a clear path forward.

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