Are you in this relationship to satisfy a personal lead, or are you in it for the sake of the relationship? The other thing is that it's not like people don't know what the red flags are, right? Like if you're with a partner who talks about their exes,. And hits animals. But why do you ignore it because of this kind of stuff? Ecause you feel stuck in the relationship. So red flag number one, within yourself, as if you're trying to fix something in you through the relationship. Once again, i'm not saying that the relationship can't help you grow. That's ideally what it should do.