Why does erotic polarity fade in long-term relationships?

Erectile dysfunction is one of the most common sexual difficulties that men encounter, and it can be very distressing. But while ED is highly treatable, we really need to understand what causes it in the first place in order to treat it most effectively. In today’s show, we’re going to explore some of the psychological reasons why it occurs, including how early attachment wounds can manifest as erectile difficulties later in life.

I am joined once again by Dr. Nazanin Moali, a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and the host of the internationally acclaimed Sexology Podcast. Based in Los Angeles, she leads a successful private practice where she helps individuals and couples deepen emotional intimacy, overcome sexual challenges, and create more fulfilling relationships.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

• Does porn cause erectile difficulties?
• How can insecure relationship dynamics play a role in erectile difficulties?
• How does early attachment trauma affect sexual function during adulthood?
• Where does performance pressure come from and how does it affect erectile function?
• What are some of the benefits of sex therapy for ED?

You can check out Nazanin’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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