How to Have an Emotional Distance Between What Someone Else Is Saying and My Reaction to It

Most people pay little attention to how they interpret events. They feel the emotional reaction. But there's an intermediate step there. You have to interpret that event. That event doesn't automatically like a reflex, create that anger or upset or frustration in you. If I take that personal, if I look at what she's saying and I twist it toward me, I'm worried upset. Instead of saying, Ray chose not to do that,. We chose to do that. See what happens? Yeah.