Belonging versus fitting in

What if the world became a better place by becoming better, more authentic versions of ourselves?

Despite what the headlines and social media might suggest, we’re not as divided as we think. Most people want the same core things: to be a good person, to live with integrity and authenticity, and to make a positive impact.

But we’re caught in a collective illusion - where the loudest voices dominate 80% of the headlines, social media, and public conversation.

If there’s one episode to share with someone who’s feeling discouraged about the state of the world, it’s this one.

In this powerful conversation, Mel sits down with Dr. Todd Rose, co-founder and CEO of the think tank Populace, which is on a mission to use data to ensure that all people have the opportunity to pursue fulfilling lives.

He was also a professor at Harvard University’s Graduate School of Education, where he earned his PhD and founded the Laboratory for the Science of Individuality.

Dr. Rose has analyzed the largest dataset ever collected on what people actually want in life based not on what they share publicly, but what they admit privately, when they’re telling the truth.

The data is clear: we are more alike than we are different. And the small, authentic choices we make every day can have a ripple effect that changes culture at scale.

He also shares a remarkable moment in history that proves real change doesn’t start with the majority - it starts with a few people who dare to live honestly.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why the world feels more polarized than it really is
- What people actually want in life, according to the data

- How the media and social platforms distort what most people believe
- Why authenticity makes you happier, stronger, and more impactful
- How your personal choices create ripple effects with global impact
- Practical steps to live more truthfully and reclaim your voice

 

This conversation will change how you see the world — and your place in it.

If there’s one episode to listen to and share, it’s this one.

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