How Can We Do This in Relationships?

In the past, that has been both about dismissing my own feelings and then shutting with the merson that i associate with it. I worked really hard to not dismiss those feelings and feel like notes, no hurt by that. The disappointment of the thing is still there, yes, but the way that we were in relationship about it gave me a model of how can we do this in in relationship? And that can also help us hold people accountable.