Is Your Wife Not Your Standard God?

I've known some husband who felt like their wives was just upset that God was using them in a particular way. They're not your enemy yeah because if there is anything the devil will have you to believe or do it's to start treating your spouse like they're an enemy of you instead of one with you. I don't think that's submissive I think it's servant hood but even then it ain't serving and when women treated you like that I asked you what did it do for youDo you remember your answer? You said when women did that for you it made you feel secure and nurturedYeah yeah I did my issue is if you do that out of pure love and mode