How to Hold a Grudge
More Than A Feeling
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How to Hold a Grudge
The book How to Hold a Grudge has the specific purpose of reframing grudges holding. For Sophie, this is a practical matter. She's separating the grudge event from the feelings. Then you let yourself recognize all those feelings and what caused them. Hey, something happened and it mattered. You work through it. And then what you're left with in the end is a grudge that Sophie calls a good grudge. It's been cleaned of all its stains and smells and shined up as a little keepsake. That's the symbolic object, the marker of what happened and the work you did to think it through.
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