How to Hold a Grudge

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The book How to Hold a Grudge has the specific purpose of reframing grudges holding. For Sophie, this is a practical matter. She's separating the grudge event from the feelings. Then you let yourself recognize all those feelings and what caused them. Hey, something happened and it mattered. You work through it. And then what you're left with in the end is a grudge that Sophie calls a good grudge. It's been cleaned of all its stains and smells and shined up as a little keepsake. That's the symbolic object, the marker of what happened and the work you did to think it through.

Maybe you want to dismiss your grudges, like they’re petty incidents. Or maybe you hold them tightly, and wear them like badges of honor. Either way, we have them. And we’re taking the view that there’s more going on with our grudges than we think.

Today, we talk with Sophie Hannah, author of "How to Hold a Grudge," and meditation teacher Matthew Hepburn, for perspective on what triggers our grudges in the first place – and how holding them can actually be good for us. We also listen to some of your grudge stories.

Full show notes available here: https://www.tenpercent.com/mtaf-podcast-episodes/grudges

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