Masturbating

When we're masturbating, we give ourselves more time and there's not the added pressure of somebody being present who we project onto. We are trying to orgasm that projection could be, I'm taking up too much space. They don't like what they're doing right now. That kind of gets taken off the table. It doesn't mean there aren't also anxious thoughts while you're masturbating,. But typically the experience of being seen, the performance anxiety is more absent. When using a high frequency vibrator when you're alone and then you're expecting your partner's tongue to do the same thing, we have an expectation issue.