Are You Fucking Kidding Me?

The relationship itself has changed fundamentally. The resentment towards your wife, I would say is a little unfair because she is also just trying to figure out what these new boundaries and edges are. And it sounds like those understandings of the world in this moment are just not in alignment. It might be helping you express your needs but in the long term, resentment can make you do that in ways that are more painful and scarring.