Nanyog: There's no such thing as a best decision. Just make the one that feels the best to you right now. A sam skar is a ball of undigested emotion that lives within us and activates at particular times. It interferes with the function of our mind, so this person has this fear from a young age that prevents them from making decisions. Over time, what they've learned how to do is suppress that f fear. They've kept it from so their brain is developed enough to where they no longer throw a tantrum but the core of the feeling is still there.