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84. Relationship Anarchy: The Romance Myth and Navigating Jealousy with Dean Spade

Modern Anarchy

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How to Survive Jealousy in Your Relationship

I think the cultural script within our world is that if you have that sort of jealousy it's a reason to not potentially open up your monogamous relationships to any other structure and even I mean the emotional fidelity gets me like take off sex off the table just like have let your partner have other deep intimate relationships. We work through that jealousy with best friends why can't we do the same thing with our partners? How can I notice that sometimes someone else's aliveness feels like a threat to me and then say but I believe in cultivating each other's aliveness so I'm not going to follow that and try to limit and control another person, she says. She also has some ideas about how

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