U r g is asking, how do you deal with a very dependent person who is getting more and more dependent as time goes by? If i try to fix fights by taking a small break and reflecting on things and trying to make myself better, it makes more issues. So if people instantly assume a red flag about you, that's where i would say you may be able to work on it some right? You can work on becoming more financially independent. You can also work on becoming sober. And so here's the cycle of dependency: As their emotional energy increases, they start to foster their own dependency. They usually end up caving in when someone else tries to take care of them.