The Purpose of Blame and Forgiveness

Philosophy can help us be more self-conscious and in fact more autonomous in terms of the particular forms of these practices that we go in for. In other circumstances while we may still have the reflex to blame it might actually be better just to forget about the whole thing not go there with a communicative blame or judgment. The moral meanings of what we do and what others do is pretty much public and fixed whether it was wrong that she behaved in that way  but whether we engage in it and try to exert influence on someone because of how we think it would be good to forgive them That's a choice about how we use our moral energies.