The Problem With the Rules

A lot of this advice is basically just like be a different person. Do not say nurturing. It will only make them think of being nurtured. There's a very good essay by Taffy Brotus, her actor in 2019 talking about how she used the rules. The problem with the rules isn't that it shouldn't need to exist, though. If you are someone who needs them, you are probably incapable of following them.