Casual Sex: Desires vs. Expectations

Nancy and Sarah talk about a recent story in The Cut, “Was Casual Sex Always This Bad?” (Answer: Probably.) They discuss how subjective the phrase “good sex” is, but for both of them, the playfulness and abandon that makes sex one of life’s great pleasures almost never comes after picking up a stranger at the open-bar wedding reception. (Although Nancy does have that one story.)

Also discussed:

* Silent discos

* Pittsburghian slang

* The TikTok sex video we want to see

* The cinematic tyranny of people having sex against a wall

* Consent: the starter manual for drunk college kids

* Oof, blackout sex

* Men regret sex, too

* Swooning: it’s a goal!

* “Sex is not a thing you do, it’s a place you go.”

* A thing you should really, really not do to your teeth …

Plus, the classic conspiracy film that made Sarah pretty sure everything is a lie, the brand-new podcast Nancy wants to shoot into her veins, the existential thrill of home renovation, and much more!