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The Pitfalls are descending steps, one connects to the other with predictable effects.

Some leaders have referred to the descent as a “chain reaction.”

This descent can be stopped at any time, with an intervention from others who the leader listens and healthily responds to, or a cry out from the leader in descent who is heard and responded to by others.

The Five Pitfalls:

1. Work becomes confused with one’s worth.

Performance begins to be valued more than one’s presence.

People become things.

To be an example to others, the true self is isolated.

Secrets sap one’s passion and purpose.

These pitfalls can destroy careers, friendships, reputations, marriages and families—unless one is freed from them.

Pitfall #2: Performance Begins to be Valued More than One’s Presence:

When a leader’s primary personal value is associated with performance, they become someone they are not—"human doings.”

To be present means to be able to present the truth of our inner selves as human beings to others.

Presence is the ability to speak the feelings, needs, desire, longings, and hopes of one’s own heart.

People who are actively present can be “in need” and be led.

Performers develop contempt for their neediness. They also eventually develop secret contempt and fear towards the needs of others because they see others as the ones who demand that they perform.

The “ease” of being one’s true self is lost in the “dis-ease” or stress of believing that one is only valuable for their performance.

People who are performers can be driven by anxiety

A leader who believes that their performance matters more than their personal presence is actually driven by anxiety, more than they are compelled by inspiration or mission/calling.

These performers:

compete and compare, more than they are called and compelled
tragically believe that they are only measured by their last mistake, or the mistakes they haven’t made yet
have pride and arrogance, rooted in toxic shame, can drive the leader away from being in need

A leader is expected to be effective and productive

A leader is expected to perform and meet the needs of those they are on mission to help, which is good. However, every leader needs a place to go where they can honestly share their own needs, without toxic shame, and where others can do the same.

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