i think i resonate a lot with zall's experience, and in kathy's experience as well. I don't know if it's just, you know, i'm the child of immigrant parents as well - so i can sort of, i'm sure that my experience is somewhat similar to metricks' because i think we're both indian. But im trying your best, yes, but what determines how life happens? That's one perspective,. So i'm going to challenge that perspective a little bit by putting myself in.