How to Love Yourself and Not Be a Failure at Love, Right?

It is worth distinguishing between outcomes you've achieved and outcomes you're still working toward. And so it's not the case that you all you have to have already achieved every desirable outcome before you can love yourself, right? Or before you can be basically sort of happy and proud and, and fulfilled. Like there are lots of variables that are going to be somewhat random or beyond your control that also need to get kind of modeled into your self assessment.