I think a lot of this comes down to how correctable is the thing that you are critiquing and I think there's a lot of gray area. For instance, if you critique my worldview or the way that I interact with people, that may be close to impossible to change. So that critique is not very useful and I will resent you. If however, you critique something specific and actionable, if I'm trying to learn to code or try to play a sport or master some kind of technique, that's useful. And I want to know what I'm doing wrong. But I think my tendency to go to the person, praise the person, criticize the person, it's