The designer says he and his brother were socialized in exactly the same way. He thinks it comes from early trama, where weare hurt by something then try to not be hurt any more. The emotion you feel after an intense event happens is just a rough dragt - that's no reason to frame your first design.
In an illuminating and cerebral discussion, Adam Grant discusses his new book “Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know”—and the value of checking in and checking up on yourself.