When we have insecurities, and these insecurities feel attacked or threatenedwhat will end up doing. But they're not actually attacked, right? There's no the sister isn't showing up and saying, you're a fat ass. That's not what the sister is saying. The sister isn't really doing anything to you. But the problem is that you feel in cure. You perceive it as an attack. And so then you conclude that this person is behaving passive, aggressively. They are just not attacking you. They're just doing things that you perceive is a tax.