Episode 256: Punishment Doesn’t Work in Adulthood Either
Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties
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The Importance of Accountability in Healing Through Infidelity
You cannot define your goodness or your worthiness on your girlfriend's acceptance or forgiveness of you. You need to prove to her that you can be stable and secure and self loving with your trustworthiness and love for her. The next time I feel this childhood insecurity cheating didn't heal it. It didn't fix it. That's what you can tell yourself when you're feeling anxious next time. This discomfort is so useful. When we cross a certain threshold into that good, pure healed, healthy love that we are somehow impervious to our own humanity,. Right? We won't make mistakes like that.
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